Wedding Bomboniere: All You Need to Know About Them
There are many traditions in the typical Italian wedding, some are less appreciated nowadays, while others resist through the years and the generations.
And there is an element that is often brought into question, that is sometimes considered outdated, but that is always present, in the end: wedding bomboniere.
Perhaps you’ve heard these words in your family sometimes, whenever someone is talking about weddings. Perhaps you’ve even happened to see some of them, in the houses of some aunts of yours, but you’ve never really given them much importance.
But now that your destination wedding in Abruzzo gets closer, and that you feel how important it is for you to reconnect with your roots, with your heritage, with the story of your family, you wish you knew more of all the Italian and Abruzzese wedding traditions, to make them your own.
So, what are wedding bomboniere, precisely? What’s their purpose? And how they are chosen?
Let’s start from the beginning: the name.
Bomboniera (that’s the singular form, bomboniere is the plural) derives from the French bonbonnière, that was used, already in the past centuries, to indicate the little, precious silver or porcelain boxes that contained bonbons, that is sweets, candies.
From the end of the 19th century, it became customary for spouses to give their guests these bomboniere with confetti inside, as a thank you gift.
During the time, other objects started to be chosen as gifts, but the name remained: the term bomboniera therefore indicates whatever object chosen as a thank you gift for the guests and not only at weddings, but in the occasion of all the most important events of life.
So there are bomboniere for births and christenings, first communions and confirmations, but also for graduations and wedding anniversaries.
What objects are used as bomboniere?
As said, today many objects can be used as wedding bomboniere. The most common ones in the past decades, were silver, porcelain or crystal items, always very refined, not always very useful: elegant boxes, vases, bowls, plates, frames, statuettes, etc.
A more modern trend is to choose design objects that can also have a practical use in everyday life: clocks, 2-piece cup sets, salt and pepper shakers, and other kitchen tools (I once received a painted trivet, just to give you an idea).
More original ideas can be bottles of local wine or local extravirgin olive oil, marmelade or honey jars, potted plants, or other items that are usually in theme with the style of the event.
Are you unsure about what to choose for your own wedding bomboniere? Would you like to find something that perfectly matches the theme you want for your wedding?
You can rely on my advice, my selected vendors are always very up to date, always in search for new proposals, and I will surely help you to find the best one for you!
Never without confetti
But whatever you choose as a bomboniera, it can’t go without confetti!
These delicious sugared almonds are THE symbol of Italian celebrations, and are produced in many areas in Italy.
But, it must be said, the homeland of confetti is the town of Sulmona, in the very heart of Abruzzo.
Here, the ancient tradition of confetti production is a real form of art.
I am not saying this because I am from Abruzzo, too – not only for this reason, at least – but the confetti from Sulmona are really the best!
The confetti always accompany the bomboniera and according to the tradition they must be five, because they represent five qualities that should never miss in the life of the newlyweds: health, wealth, happiness, long life and fertility.
I remember that, when I was I child, the confetti were always wrapped in two layers of white tulle tied with ribbons. Then, starting from the 90s, new trends started to gain ground: little printed paper boxes, plastic or glass little tubes, bags in different shapes and different fabrics. Today the choice is really really wide!
And there is also a wide choice of confetti!
The classic white almond with a sugar coating is always very appreciated, but now there are also the so-called cioccomandorle, that are a real treat!
They are bigger than traditional confetti and, between the almond and the sugar coating, they have a layer of flavoured chocolate! And the flavours are endless! Strawberry, lemon, orange, watermelon, pear, banana, but also coffee, walnut, amaretto, milk, zabaglione… the list could go on forever!
This incredibly wide choice has originated two trends:
- the first one is that sometimes couples decide to use the cioccomandorle not to accompany the bomboniera, but AS a bomboniera! There are of course many of them, not just five, in different flavours, and they are packed in big beautiful decorated boxes!
- the second trend is the so-called confettata: a sort of candy bar prepared at the end of the wedding reception, that offers different kinds of confetti and cioccomandorle, each one in a bowl with a tag indicating the flavour: the paradise for confetti-lovers!
If you want to have a better idea of what a typical confettata looks like, here is my Pinterest board completely about confettate!
Would you like to offer your guests a wonderful confettata?
I can help you to create it: I will assist you with the choice of the different flavours and I will indicate you the best suppliers!
Wedding bomboniere: how many of them do you need?
This may seem an easy question with an easy answer:
“The exact number of my guests, of course!”
But actually, it isn’t so.
To calculate the right number, you must follow some strict rules.
One bomboniera for each family unit, and one for each couple, if they are married or live together. For singles or engaged couples who don’t live together, you will have to count one bomboniera per person.
And here in Italy it is customary to add some more bomboniere to the count, in case there are some relatives or friends who are not invited to the wedding, but who decide to send a gift all the same… it’s important to show your gratitude also to them!
It seems all a bit tricky, doesn’t it? But you don’t have to worry, because I can assist you in this delicate task, so that all your guests will be satisfied!
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